Staying in love is not a XXI Century thing...
Have you ever had the feeling that falling in love and staying in love is something very hard to do nowadays??? And, when I say the word "love", I mean the love between a man and a woman. I am not actually saying that love is not present and that people do not fall in love, what I complain about is that keeping that love on is what has become so difficult and something that we do not see every day.
It looked easier before. Or maybe I'm wrong. Many decades ago, people used to get married due to arranged marriages. That still happens in some parts of the world, such as in India. But, most countries, over the years, changed that conception of arranged marriages and accepted people getting married because they were in love.
Years ago, the people who we now know as our grandparents, got married because they were in love and, they didn't get divorced. Maybe their love was not the same but their union lasted for good. It was really strange to see a couple separated.
Now, for me, love is underestimated. The meaning of the word "love" has changed for today's society. I do not know if people really know the great significance that word implies. I think that the "love" we know today is not actually love, but, somehow (and I'm not saying that I am absolutely right) lust. It seems to me that people get together for mere selfish reasons and only to have some sorts of need satisfied.
Anyway, this idea came to my mind when I recalled the lyrics of a song from my favourite band (though some of you may laugh at who they are, but, well, it's what I like, he!) "The Backstreet Boys". In their song "I promise you", sang by one of the memebers who gives love a lot of credit, says the following in this song: "Seems like everyone we know is breaking up... Does anybody ever stay in love anymore?" I have to say that I agree with him. I do not have a boyfriend and I am not in love but, I have friends who have had boyfriends and I've seen how love, in a way, took a second place (or a third) and obsession, loneliness, lust, etc., were given a greater importance and value.
Love shouldn't be so difficult, or at least admitting that one's in love shouldn't be as hard as it seems to be. And it shouldn't be something people have to be afraid of. =)
Here I share the song with you... Enjoy it!!! =)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9C96dZPUnc8
This is related to what I say in my post about selfishness. When you love someone, it is impossible to be selfish. If you find out, you are being selfish somehow, then you have a problem. Those concepts are not compatible, you know. It is difficult nowadays, really difficult to share. That's why is hard to STAY in love as you say. However, I believe in love. In fact, I AM in love. I can be the exception of the rule, though not the only one, fortunately. HA HA.
ReplyDeleteLove shouldn't be so difficult as you say, but people is more concerned in other things, like material things and they think that will make them feel at ease. Until some day they will realize they are alone. Being in love is a great feeling and something that should be seen more often everywhere. So the Backstreet are in the right!
ReplyDeleteIf in the world there weren't love, it would be a disaster! I think that in the world there are evidences of love, however nowadays, people tend to show the other side, selfishness, as stated in the post of Agus! But we shouldn't forget that there is hope and that there is love in this wonderful world!! A clear example is the love of a mother to her kids.
ReplyDeleteI´m so happy to hear Agustina saying she is in love. I always feel happy when I see a couple hugging each other and kissing tenderly...I wish some day I would be joyful about me being in that situation. I also do believe in love!
ReplyDeleteLaura, why do you say that it was easier before? In my opinion people, women mostly, stayed in a relatinship because they put up with many things, such as infidelity, or even mistreatment. I think they weren't actually in love, but worried about what others may say if they failed in a love relationship.
Maybe it is true, maybe some people are afraid to love and be loved. Fortunately, I´m not one of those, nor it is Agus, or Nadine,etc..ha! But I do think that the lack of love is more frquent in cities where everyone lives in a rush and have no time to really communicate with others. I think that in provinces like our, where we know each other, we are kind of a "warmer society" where people are more likely to create bonds with others. Well, I hope you find your half orange soon!
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